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"Marriage counsellors often see couples who believe that sex should always be perfect, and if someone is meant to be with you then they will know what you want without you needing to communicate it." Argh.

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Watching romantic comedies can spoil your love life, a study by a university in Edinburgh has claimed.

"Rom-coms have been blamed by relationship experts at Heriot Watt University for promoting unrealistic expectations when it comes to love." Aha! I knew there were plenty of good reasons NOT to watch this type of movies :-) They found fans of films such as Runaway Bride and Notting Hill often fail to communicate with their partner.

Romantic comedies are bad for relationships. I knew it. Also -- a David Lynch movie is used as a control for a romantic comedy? Hee!

Totally supporting my hypotheses that Twilight is bad for people. :)

He took a breath and added, "This is Dr. Rodney McKay. I wouldn't want to be confused with the legions of other employees who hate you." / He snapped his phone closed, feeling marginally better. / Radek made a worried face. "I really do not think you should have done that." / Rodney snorted a laugh. "What's he going to do? Fire me?"

Rodney tells Santa what he wants for Christmas. Twenty years later, he finally gets it.

"A boyfriend. He doesn't have to be as smart as me, because who is really, but not some stupid oaf, either. I'd like him to be cute, of course. And he should appreciate what a good catch I am. That's the most important part."

John is Rodney's 20 year late Christmas present.

Summary: Rodney tells Santa what he wants for Christmas. Twenty years later, he finally gets it.

"So what would you like Santa to bring you, young man?" the old pervert inquired. Rodney darted a glance over at Brett, who was still guffawing with the morons. He lowered his voice and dared to ask Santa for what he really wanted, "A boyfriend. He doesn't have to be as smart as me, because who is really, but not some stupid oaf, either. I'd like him to be cute, of course. And he should appreciate what a good catch I am. That's the most important part." Santa gave him a speculative look. "I'll need some time." Rodney frowned. Was Santa supposed to negotiate? "How much time?" "One boyfriend," Santa promised. "Delivered on or before Christmas 2008."

Rodney asks Santa for a boyfriend for Christmas, and twenty years later he gets John. Very sweet, Christmas fic.

mucking about with language

Linguists have been trying to explain for over a century—ever since a cultural anthropologist first published with the intent to connect differences in culture with differences in language by examining the roots—that the Inuit people of North America do not in fact have an inordinately large number of words for frozen precipitation.

Vulcans have no word for "lover".

she hopes he can taste what she can never find words to say.

A delightful poetic story dealing with linguistics. This is actually Spock/Uhura, but it souldn't bother anyone.

With every touch of her hands to his face, her fingers tracing the curve of his cheek and jaw, she draws a map of the uncharted lands between them so he might find a home in the circle of her arms.

There are no words for this. It cannot be contained by ink on paper or sounds carried by the wind.

There are at least five different words Uhura has identified in both Modern Vulcan written and spoken language for spouse (bond-mate, joined-but-chaste, joined-but-parted, joined-never-parted, parent-of-my-offspring), and four for friend (companion, secret-keeper, friendship-like-kinship, and friendship-closer-than-kinship). There are Old High Vulcan endearments (half-of-my-heart/soul/being) that she has never heard spoken—and most likely never will, the embracing of the teachings of Surak changing the language of Vulcan even as it changed her people. But there is no word for someone with whom one has an intimate, physical relationship outside of marriage.

http://bit.ly/2eqM0j 50 reasons to date a geek (via @crashbox) love it *grin* all true..

Kinda serious. Mirror: http://www.webcitation.org/5kqLU9KeA

=)

50 Reasons to Date a Geek

John's mind was already made up, but he couldn't resist yanking Rodney's chain a little bit. "Hmm," he said. "A room full of physicists; a long-winded presentation I probably won't understand. Yeah, it doesn't really sound like fun."

Rodney takes John to a conference for a first date. Bad science, petty colleagues, and potentially the end of the world follow.

nc-17 mcshep brainstorm au with john in place of keller. :)

AU of Brain Storm. john goes with Rodney.

Brainstorm- McShep style.

episodeAU Rodney and John go earthside to a science conference- chaos ensues

That was more like it. "You don't have to make such a big deal out of it," John pointed out. "You could just ask me out on a date." / Rodney's deer-in-the-headlights look was pretty funny. "Hey, I didn't want to. . . I mean. . . I know. . . you. . ." / "I'll probably say yes," John said, breezily. Rodney stared.

The episode Brainstorm, except with John instead of Keller. The way it's supposed to be.

John's mind was already made up, but he couldn't resist yanking Rodney's chain a little bit. "Hmm," he said. "A room full of physicists; a long-winded presentation I probably won't understand. Yeah, it doesn't really sound like fun." - Brainstorm AU where John, not Jennifer, goes to the conference with Rodney

the way the episode SHOULD have gone.

Nick Yee, (year?)

Almost 3 decades ago, in 1978, Elaine Hatfield wrote a seminal book on the topic of love - teasing apart passionate and companionate love. She defined passionate love as "a state of intense longing for union with another" and companionate love as "the affection we feel for those with whom our lives are deeply entwined". Around the same time, Dorothy Tennov was trying to answer the same question in her book "Love and Limerence" and, similar to Hatfield, quickly differentiated between the “love” that is sincere concern and caring as opposed to the “love” that is fiery, euphoric and ephemeral. ... Tennov coined the term “limerence” for the latter so as to be able to discuss it as a concept separate from “love”. She noted that “love” is an emotion that is acted on, while “limerence” is more of a transformed state that people go into (the difference in the proverbial “I love you, but I’m not in love with you”).

Love in Four Acts: What is Romantic Love? - http://j.mp/98a0ua