Love in the Time of Darwinism by Kay S. Hymowitz, City Journal Autumn 2008
A very engaging look at the current practices of male/female relationships. "Today, though, there is no standard scenario for meeting and mating, or even relating. For one thing, men face a situation—and I’m not exaggerating here—new to human history. Never before have men wooed women who are, at least theoretically, their equals—socially, professionally, and sexually." I think the most interesting point is this idea about female expectations: "[Women] want to compete equally, and have the privileges of their mother’s generation. They want the executive position, AND the ability to stay home with children and come back into the workplace at or beyond the position at which they left. They want the bad boy and the metrosexual." This last sentence is the major sticking point in my mind, though I've wondered since reading it if I'm just attracted to it because it justifies/reinforces my, shall we say, lack of aggression in dating.
"Earlier this year, I published an article in City Journal called “Child-Man in the Promised Land.” The piece elicited a roaring flood of mailed and blogged responses, mostly from young men who didn’t much care for its title (a reference to Claude Brown’s 1965 novel Manchild in the Promised Land) or its thesis: that too many single young males (SYMs) were lingering in a hormonal limbo between adolescence and adulthood, shunning marriage and children, and whiling away their leisure hours with South Park reruns, marathon sessions of World of Warcraft, and Maxim lists of the ten best movie fart scenes."Dating 101: Five Things Super-Happy Couples Do Every Day -- Yahoo! Personals
Success in a relationship involves five daily habits that'll keey you and your mate satisfied. Rekindle love with dating tips from the experts and couples who have salvaged relationships on the rocks.xkcd - A Webcomic - Boyfriend
statistically significant other
stat humor. gotta love it.
HilariousDating Guide: 40 Things You Can Learn About a Guy in 10 Minutes -- Yahoo! Personals
haha/do we really need a 'significant other' to be a worthy person?
Why The Smartest People Have The Toughest Time Datingdabagirls.com
Are you or someone you love dating a banker? If so, we are here to support you through these difficult times. Dating A Banker Anonymous (DABA) is a safe place where women can come together – free from the scrutiny of feminists– and share their tearful tales of how the mortgage meltdown has affected their relationships. So if your monthly Bergdorf’s allowance has been halved and bottle service has all but disappeared from your life, lighten your heart with laughter and email your stories to email@example.com. Warning all stories sent will be infused with our own special brand of DABA Girl humor.
Ladies dating an Investment Banker? Then this site is for you! (Hat Tip @sheffi)But If We Started Dating It Would Ruin Our Friendship Where I Ask You To Do Things And You Do Them | The Onion - America's Finest News Source
I really like you. I do. You're so nice, and sweet, and you listen to all my problems and respond with the appropriate compliments. But, well, I...Online Dating Advice: Exactly What To Say In A First Message « OkTrends
OkCupid study using the messages sent by its users.
Online Dating Advice: Exactly What To Say In A First Message
Mmmmm stats applied to online dating - fascinating looking at what words work best. I wonder if similar principles apply to blog posts.
We analyzed over 500,000 first contacts on our dating site, OkCupid. Our program looked at keywords and phrases, how they affected reply rates, and what trends were statistically significant. The result: a set of rules for what you should and shouldn’t say when introducing yourself online. This is the second post of our statistical investigation into the optimal online dating messageThread
Matchmaker app for Facebook. Search profiles of friends and friends-of-friends.
Freunde von Facebook-Freunden finden
The best way to meet people is through friends. Thread makes it easy to see your entire social network and find common friends using Facebook Connect.
Your friends know awesome people. Browse their Facebook profiles and see if you connect. You can ask a friend for an intro, or play matchmaker with your own friends.The Carol syndrome
Plus Maths Magazine: Feature Article
The Carol syndrome
A mathematical explanation of how pretty girls scare boys away.
Mooie vrouwen worden zelden aangesproken. Wiskundige onderbouwing waaromGuest Blogger Starling: Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced « Kate Harding's Shapely Prose
"If you fail to respect what women say, you label yourself a problem."
I set my own risk tolerance. you must be aware of what signals you are sending by your appearance and the environment. Learn to understand and respect women’s communication to you. If you fail to respect what women say, you label yourself a problem. Don’t rape. Nor should you commit these similar but less severe offenses: don’t assault. Don’t grope. Don’t constrain. Don’t brandish. Don’t expose yourself. Don’t threaten with physical violence. Don’t threaten with sexual violence. Shouldn’t this go without saying? Of course it should. Sadly, that’s not the world I live in. You may be beginning to realize that it’s not the world you live in, either.
a man's guide to talking to strange women without seeming crazy/serial rapist by Phaedra Starling
Shouldn’t this go without saying? Of course it should. Sadly, that’s not the world I live in. You may be beginning to realize that it’s not the world you live in, either.
Newsflash, Mr. Nice Guy: Being pushy or creepy tends to set off alarm bells.
When you approach me in public, you are Schrödinger’s Rapist. You may or may not be a man who would commit rape. I won’t know for sure unless you start sexually assaulting me. I can’t see inside your head, and I don’t know your intentions. If you expect me to trust you—to accept you at face value as a nice sort of guy—you are not only failing to respect my reasonable caution, you are being cavalier about my personal safety.How Races and Religions Match in Online Dating « OkTrends
Since he’s a Pisces and I’m a Virgo, Chris and I of course think the Zodiac is total bullshit, and it was very gratifying to have the data bear this out. Here are the grouped match percentages for a random pool of 500,000 users. Astrological sign has no effect whatsoever on how compatible two people are.
data mining of how people describe themselves on a dating sightYour Looks and Your Inbox « OkTrends
When it comes down to actually choosing targets, men choose the modelesque. Someone like roomtodance above gets nearly 5 times as many messages as a typical woman and 28 times as many messages as a woman at the low end of our curve. Site-wide, two-thirds of male messages go to the best-looking third of women. So basically, guys are fighting each other 2-for-1 for the absolute best-rated females, while plenty of potentially charming, even cute, girls go unwritten. ....the most salient of which is that the average-looking woman has convinced herself that the vast majority of males aren’t good enough for her, but she then goes right out and messages them anyway.
This week we will be confronting a fact that, by definition, haunts the average online dater: no matter how much time you spend polishing your profile, honing your IM banter, and perfecting your message introductions, it’s your picture that matters most.
Posted by angelaThe 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures « OkTrends
almost-scientific quantitative analysis of dating website
Important for meeting and engaging people online, may be important for professional profiles depending on career
How to make your profile picture to pop out."Surely You're Joking, Mr. Feynman!"
so this is one of my FAVORITE BOOKS OF ALL TIME!! and now lots of the stories are up right here :D :D :D
From "Surely You're Joking, Mr. Feynman!", the kind of advice that saves you a lifetime of figuring it out by yourself
hey're not going to give you a goddamn thing; I'm not going to be a gentleman to such worthless bitches, and so on. I learned it till it was automatic.The Case For An Older Woman « OkTrends
Excellent data, frank discussion of men's bias towards younger women (with graphs and pictures of cute non-young women!)
ause it has been a successful way to introduce previous posts, I wanted to put real faces on this demographic before I delve into a bunch of numbers. Pictured below are some single users in their mid-thirties or early forties, taken from the first couple pages of my own local match search. Nothing I'll talk about today pertains necessarily to any one of them, but I wanted to put forward some people to go with th
Data from OKCupid on sex match preferences and changes based on age as well as attitudes of men and women basically proving that men should date women older than they are despite the fact that typically they date younger women.Dating Advice: Top 10 Relationship Tips -- Yahoo! Personals
Making a connection when you first start dating is generally easy compared to maintaining the connection in the long term. Here, the country's top love experts offer up their best advice -- for free!How to Get Over Breakups | ThinkSimpleNow.com
really helpful and inspirational
Be generous and list many, even if they sound silly. Example, “I love that you always know how to make your salads so colorful and appetizing.”, “I love that you have the discipline to go to the gym regularly, and you really take care of your body.”, “I love that you are so neat, and can keep your desk so organized.”Conjugal Harmony Prison Dating » Browse Inmates
Meet a woman with the perfect amount of freedom and rights
All The Sex, None of The Nagging! Are you tired of wondering if she’s cheating on you? Do you love to leave the toilet seat up? Want to enjoy freedom on the weekend and watch a little football with your buddies, rather than work on your “honey do” list? Well, now you don’t have to worry any of that with the latest craze in adult dating, dating and marrying inmates for conjugal visits. With a conjugal marriage, you will finally have a wife with the perfect amount of freedoms and rights, and more importantly, you will finally start enjoying your own.
http://www.conjugalharmony.com/Dating 101: The Truth About Why Men Cheat -- Yahoo! Personals
What makes men cheat? A marriage counselor surveyed 200 husbands to find out the real reasons behind infidelity. Find out the signs that your partner may be having an affair, and how to prevent a man from cheating in the first place.
RLL CHEATING This is a list of reasons why men cheat from the point of view of men, which I thought might be helpful for Erin. Some of the reasons could help her create questions for her survey.Guest Column: Loves Me, Loves Me Not (Do the Math) - Olivia Judson Blog - NYTimes.com
RT - "Romeo and Juliet behave like simple harmonic oscillators" - unfortunately phase shifted!! - http://alturl.com/otbb [from http://twitter.com/vivek_kumar/statuses/2647778575]
by steven strogatz.
RT @iwestminster “Love me, love me not” reduces love to a mathematical equation http://tr.im/mNUs (I was never good at #math:) #homeschool [from http://twitter.com/CircleReader/statuses/1961151636]
Blog column by Steven Strogatz.
Love of Romeo and Juliet, ODE style... by Steven StrogatzArtifact - Personal Ads From an Ayn Rand Fan Dating Site -- New York Magazine
I feel kind of like having some sort of stroke upon reading these, but man, they are *perfect*. ... except I'm still honestly not sure they're real? THEY'RE JUST TOO PERFECT.
I want to meet a serious woman who both challenges me intellectually and inspires me to noble things by her beauty.
The comments are quite excellent too, especially pauls101 comparing Marx's and Rand's flaws of abstraction.
Two weeks ago, Ayn Rand aficionado Alan Greenspan admitted to a House subcommittee that his libertarian economic worldview had been shaken by events on Wall Street; last week, Governor Paterson approvingly cited Rand’s advocacy of stout individualism, which he says citizens of New York State will need during the budget crisis. Meanwhile, on TheAtlasphere.com, a dating site, Rand fans are just looking for love; below, excerpts from user profiles. Lewis, London, U.K. I love intelligent, sassy girls, particularly those working in consulting or investment banking (but other fields are great too). Really, nothing is hotter than an accomplished girl in a suit, as long as she is willing to settle down and have my children. I want a girl who will support my ambitions against the naysayers in society.50 Reasons to Date a Geek
http://bit.ly/2eqM0j 50 reasons to date a geek (via @crashbox) love it *grin* all true..
Kinda serious. Mirror: http://www.webcitation.org/5kqLU9KeA
50 Reasons to Date a GeekCupidtino
Exclusive matchmaking site for Apple lovers.
Introducing Cupidtino - die Partner-Börse für Apple Fanboys und Fangirls http://bit.ly/coEHwG #muahaha #lol
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Bizarra red social para encontrar tu pareja maquera.
Well I WAS looking forward to our 10th wedding anniversary. Now it seems I may be able to do better: http://cupidtino.com/4 simple steps to meeting someone
DatingThe Big Lies People Tell In Online Dating « OkTrends
lies and stats from OK Cupid http://bit.ly/aY1kX1 :)
OK Cupid crunches the numbers on the biggest lies in online dating: http://bit.ly/9zheTf
// Cool data
"People do everything they can in their OkCupid profiles to make themselves seem awesome, and surely many of our users genuinely are. But it's very hard for the casual browser to tell truth from fiction. With our behind-the-scenes perspective, we're able to shed some light on some typical claims and the likely realities behind them."
Another amazing data analysis post from OkCupid
I'm married, but I love love love when OKCupid goes all data on us.
Interesting analysis of information gathered from OK Cupid (dating site) vs. norm.